Is She Wrong For Refusing to Tell Her Husband The Gender of The Baby?

A pregnant mother recently posted on Reddit’s Am I the A**Hole (AITA) subthread asking if she was an AH for withholding the baby’s gender from the baby’s father.

The original poster (OP) aired out her grievances on Reddit and asked the community if she was in the wrong or not.

The OP explained that her husband missed the monumental appointment that reveals the baby’s gender, which isn’t the first time he’s missed doctor’s appointments.

It Wasn’t The First Time He Missed Appointments

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Throughout the pregnancy, OP explained that she’d been going to many doctor’s appointments alone because her husband makes excuses for missing them.

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She said, “He says, ‘I’m not the one carrying the baby, why do I have to go see the doctor with you?'”

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Husband’s Outrage At Being Shut-Out

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This didn’t go over well with OP’s husband. He blew up on her and called her spitful, dramatic, and immature.

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