Parenting Taboo: He Said He Regretted Having Children, Was He Wrong?

A concerned Reddit user shared a story about admitting he regrets having children during marriage counseling and asked if he was an a**hole for what he said.

Marital Problems

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The original poster (OP) started by stating he and his wife were in marriage counseling after they started having marital problems due to the birth of their children, a 6-year-old and 4-year-old twins.

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According to the OP, he and his wife have faced many issues and had countless disagreements in their marriage, which have driven them apart.

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OP explained he had been working through his resentments that he and his wife trying to have one more child resulted in the birth of twins.

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According to him, one of the twins has ADHD and ODD, making the kid a “nightmare child.”

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Parenthood Regrets

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