A pregnant mother recently posted on a Reddit subthread asking if she was a wrong for withholding the baby’s gender from the baby’s father.
The original poster (OP) aired out her grievances on Reddit and asked the community if she was in the wrong or not.
The OP explained that her husband missed the monumental appointment that reveals the baby’s gender, which isn’t the first time he’s missed doctor’s appointments.
It Wasn’t the First Time He Missed Appointments
Throughout the pregnancy, OP explained that she’d been going to many doctor’s appointments alone because her husband makes excuses for missing them.
She said, “He says, ‘I’m not the one carrying the baby, why do I have to go see the doctor with you?'”
OP’s patience finally broke when he canceled at the last minute and said he wasn’t going to the most important appointment, the scan revealing the baby’s gender.
When OP asked him why he wasn’t going, he said it was because one of his buddies asked him to go for a meal.
After the appointment, OP’s husband immediately started texting and spam-calling her asking if they were having a boy or a girl, but she refused to answer his questions.
Instead, she told him since he refused to come to the appointment, she would refuse to tell him the gender and that he could wait until the baby was born.
Husband’s Outrage at Being Shut-Out
This didn’t go over well with OP’s husband. He blew up on her and called her spitful, dramatic, and immature. He demanded to know the gender of the baby and added that since he was the father, he had the right to know.
OP said that her husband had gotten the entire family involved, and everyone was putting pressure on OP to reveal the gender and to stop playing games.
OP concluded by saying that, so far, she’s refused, but she wanted to ask the community whether she was AITA for doing so.
What Do You Think?
The Reddit community was outraged. One user said, “NTA. Already a deadbeat dad before the baby is even born.”
Another added, “If he’s telling you ‘I’m not carrying the baby, why do I have to go to the doctor’s appointment with you’, that’s going to turn into ‘I didn’t push that baby, why should I look after it!!'”
A third Redditor said the same thing happened to her, “My ex pulled this with our second child, and I caved and told him. I shouldn’t have.”
Overall, the Reddit community said she was not in the wrong, and many Redditor though that this was just a precursor for the type of father he would be. One said, “He’s literally prioritizing food over his unborn baby. Is this who you really want to raise a child with?”
Was OP right in withholding the baby’s gender from her husband? Should OP have just told him the gender and not caused a big fight? What would you have done in this situation?
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