A man turned to the Reddit community to voice his concerns after finding out he had a 19-year-old daughter.
An Unplanned Pregnancy
The Original Poster (OP) had a romantic relationship with his ex-girlfriend when they were both 19 years old. They broke up, and shortly afterward, his ex-girlfriend found out she was pregnant.
She informed him that she planned to have an abortion, but she only wanted her sister to be present during the procedure.
After their brief conversation, OP assumed that the abortion had taken place and did not have any further contact with his ex-girlfriend.
She Lied About an Abortion
Fast forward 19 years, and OP found out that his ex-girlfriend had lied to him all those years ago. Sadly, his ex-girlfriend had passed away three years prior.
OP was devastated to learn that he had a 19-year-old daughter, Kara, who had been living with her uncle. The uncle contacted OP to let him know that Kara was interested in getting to know her father.
He Has a 19-Year-Old Daughter
OP and Kara met twice, and they began to build a relationship. During their second meeting, Kara asked OP why he had not been involved in her life.
OP was honest with her and explained that he had been under the impression that the pregnancy had been terminated and that he had only recently discovered her existence.
Despite her emotional reaction to the news, Kara expressed that she still wanted OP to be a part of her life.
He Told Her the Truth
However, when Kara’s family found out about OP’s disclosure, they were furious. They accused him of being selfish and not considering how his actions would affect Kara’s image of her late mother.
The family was upset because they felt that OP had ruined the image that Kara had of her mother.
The uncle called OP a selfish jerk for not taking into account how Kara would feel after finding out the truth.
OP is now struggling with guilt and wondering if he made the right decision by being honest with Kara.
He is questioning whether he should have kept the truth hidden and protected Kara’s image of her mother. He is still learning how to be a father and feels like he may have dropped the ball in this situation.
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Source: Reddit