A strained relationship with a family, coupled with instances of disrespect and hostility, can lead to many problems. In this Reddit post, a woman seeks advice after considering whether or not to invite her parents to her upcoming wedding.
She Got Engaged
The Original Poster (OP) is a 23-year-old who recently got engaged to her fiancé. She is planning to have her wedding at the end of the year.
OP mentioned that her fiancé’s family is great and does a lot for her, and they are very close.
A Strained Family Relationship
Sadly, since OP started seeing her fiancé, she no longer has a close relationship with her own family.
OP’s parents forbade her from dating until she became 25.
As a result, OP’s parents don’t like her fiancé and they even resisted seeing him.
They Avoid Seeing Him
In 2021, her parents refused to see her fiancé stating they didn’t want to get sick from Covid.
However, during that time they had hosted OP’s sister’s prom at their home and allowed both of OP’s siblings to frequently attend activities and have friends around.
They Don’t Respect Her Fiancé
OP said that her parents only ever actually met her fiancé once, and they were extremely unkind to him.
OP’s dad calls him kid instead of calling him by his name. And as a result, OP and her fiancé had a fight because she was so worried about everything.
Thankfully they were able to patch things up, and things got better. However, when she told her parents about the fight, they both urged OP to leave him and move in with them.
The Story Took a Turn
Things took a turn when OP told her family that she was engaged.
They Were Angry
They were upset that they weren’t informed in advance and shouted at OP for being a bad sister and daughter.
She Is Afraid of Her Parents
OP says she is terrified that her parents would become angry with her and report her to the police which is something that has happened four times before.
Her Fiancé Doesn’t Want Them at the Wedding
As a result, OP’s fiancé doesn’t want them at the wedding. One major reason for this is that OP’s parents don’t like religion and the wedding will be a religious service.
Her fiancé, however, is okay with them attending the reception.
OP wasn’t sure at first, but now that OP has been yelled at for getting engaged, she is not sure whether she really wants them at the reception either.
She Had a Panic Attack
OP had a panic attack for the first time in months. She had not experienced any anxiety for a long time.
She Took to Reddit
So OP asked Reddit whether she is doing anything wrong. Several Redditors sided with OP and said that she is not wrong and that her family is being toxic and that OP should get away from them.
One Reddit user wrote, “Your parents don’t get to tell you, a grown adult when you can or cannot date. Your parents are awful and I don’t blame your SO for not wanting them at the wedding or reception.”
Another Redditor commented, “You don’t owe your parents anything. They’ve treated both you and your fiance terribly, and would be lucky if you invited them.”
So what do you think? Did OP do the right thing here?
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