A Reddit user asked the community if they were in the wrong for telling their friend that they didn’t want to keep hearing about their pregnancy.
The Original Poster (OP) has been friends with Kayla for about a decade. They have a strong friendship but have been drifting apart recently due to their differing lifestyles.
Kayla recently got married, and OP is happy for her friend as it was something she desired.
She Wanted to Support Her
Kayla’s husband is a good man, and OP celebrated her friend’s wedding by being a bridesmaid, despite not being particularly fond of weddings.
The celebration was about supporting her friend, rather than focusing on herself.
An Exciting Development
OP is pleased for her friend, Kayla, who is currently around five months pregnant and very excited to become a mother.
Despite not being fond of children or desiring them herself, OP is happy for those around her who wish to have them and is not one of those who harbor resentment towards parents and kids.
She Helps With Her Appointments
Kayla’s family lives a few hours away, so she often requests OP’s company for appointments when her husband is unable to attend. OP is glad to assist and is not bothered by it.
Being Helpful in the Pregnancy
Additionally, she is content to know that the pregnancy and the baby are doing well, and doesn’t mind discussing them occasionally with Kayla or listening to her talk about things she has purchased for the baby.
However, She Does Not Want to Talk About it All the Time
However, OP notices that Kayla frequently brings up her pregnancy and the baby during their time together.
While OP can tolerate it, she finds that it is a common topic of conversation that is not always of interest to her.
She Always Brings the Conversation to Herself
OP believes that her friend, Kayla, is testing her patience in some way.
OP has noticed that every time she tries to steer the conversation away from Kayla’s pregnancy, Kayla somehow manages to bring it up again.
OP is Frustrated
This behavior is irritating for OP, as she finds that even when they are discussing unrelated topics like work or personal matters, Kayla finds a way to relate it to her impending motherhood.
Things Are Starting to Boil Over
Recently, OP has been having a difficult time dealing with her own breakup and having to work overtime.
Feeling tired and upset, she invited Kayla to her house instead of going out for dinner as previously planned.
She Kept Talking About the Pregnancy
However, even during their time together at OP’s home, Kayla persisted in discussing her pregnancy and baby, despite OP’s clear desire to talk about other things.
Finally Letting It Out
OP and Kayla were having a conversation about life. However, Kayla once again steered the conversation toward her pregnancy, detailing how her back was hurting and how the baby was kicking.
This topic continued for approximately ten minutes until OP expressed her frustration with the constant pregnancy-related discussions.
This Upset Her Friend
She stated that she did not care much about pregnancies and suggested they talk about something else for a change.
This upset Kayla, who argued that the topic was important to her.
OP responded that it was only important to her and that they could find a different subject to discuss.
She Called Her a Jerk
Kayla became even more upset and called OP a jerk and a bad friend. The argument escalated, and Kayla left in anger.
Despite OP feeling that she may have acted wrongly, she also felt exhausted by the constant discussion of Kayla’s pregnancy.
The Comments Continued
Furthermore, Kayla had frequently made comments about how OP would change her mind about kids, which may have contributed to her snapping during their conversation.
Reddit Users Weigh In
Multiple Reddit users responded to the situation, expressing that OP is not in the wrong. They acknowledged that while Kayla’s pregnancy is a big milestone in her life, it shouldn’t define their friendship.
Some users suggested that Kayla may have become too self-centered due to her pregnancy and advised OP to communicate her feelings to her friend.
Others noted that Kayla’s behavior was insensitive, particularly in light of OP’s recent breakup due to her own views on having children.
Some users also speculated that Kayla may become even more self-centered after the baby is born. Despite these differing opinions, the majority of commenters agreed that OP is not at fault for expressing her frustration with the constant pregnancy-related discussions.
What do you think? What would you do if were OP?
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