She asked whether she was wrong for humiliating my grandparents in public by loudly telling them to stop pretending they’re these amazing grandparents when they’re only interested in me because their golden grandchild stopped being perfect enough for them.
Lousy Grandparents
A Reddit user tells their story of calling out their lousy grandparent’s parenting behaviors.
OP’s relationship with their paternal grandparents has been strained due to the grandparents’ self-centered behavior.
OP’s grandparents always prioritized appearances and social status over their family’s happiness.
They Wanted a Trophy Son
They forced OP’s father into activities he didn’t enjoy and even caused him to sustain a knee injury due to their desire for him to be a trophy son.
The situation between OP’s father and grandparents reached a breaking point when he stood up to them and told them he did not want to become a doctor or a lawyer.
The grandparents did not attend their son’s college graduation or wedding and even refused to be a part of OP’s life because they believed their grandchild would turn out “bad” like their father.
On the other hand, OP’s uncle was treated very differently and encouraged to excel in academics and sports.
Fixated on Appearances
OP’s grandparents are still fixated on appearances and their need to impress their friends. They were initially impressed by OP’s cousin Vanessa because she excelled in ballet at a young age, but they have now grown resentful towards her because she is not a straight-A student or a cheerleader.
They were upset when Vanessa cut her hair to support cancer patients at her school’s cancer awareness rally, highlighting their tendency to prioritize their image over their family members’ choices.
Although OP’s grandparents did not show much interest in them before, they have suddenly become very involved in their life and attend all of their events.
However, their intentions are not entirely genuine, and they only seem to care about OP because their other grandchild has disappointed them.
At a choir concert where OP performed two solo songs, the grandparents loudly praised their grandchild and made snide remarks about OP’s father.
When OP tried to leave, the grandparents stopped them and commented about Vanessa’s “spiteful rebelling.”
She Called Them Out
OP was understandably frustrated by their grandparents’ behavior and publicly called them out on their manipulative and selfish actions.
While some acquaintances believed that the grandparents were only misguided in their actions, OP felt that their behavior was inappropriate and damaging to their family.
According to OP, OP’s grandparents must recognize that their behavior has consequences and prioritize their family’s happiness over their image.
Many Reddit users agreed with the stance of OP.
One wrote, “It’s harsh, but it’s true, and I think it’s long overdue…The grandparents have reaped what they have sown.”
Many others chimed in with similar experiences and wished it was handled this way for them.
Another commented, “Your grandparents needed a taste of what their toxicity has wrought. You’ve made your grandparents wary of trying to bask in reflected pride.”
Is OP right in calling out the grandparents? How would you have reacted in this situation?
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Source: Reddit