A recent post on a Reddit subreddit went viral when a female carpenter asked if she was in the wrong for blowing up at a sexist older customer.
Our storyteller has been into woodwork since she was young – her stepdad is in the carpentry business, and she often visited him at work when she was younger.
#1. A Young Learner
When she was 12, she used to practice her woodworking basics at her stepdad’s business, and when she was 15, he allowed her to start helping out.
#2. She Built Up Her Skills
At first, it was just the little things you’d expect a 15-year-old to help with; cleaning up, holding, and bringing tools or other items for the workers. However, as time progressed, she became a full employee and learned the trade while studying at school.
#3. She Was Taking On More Responsibility
Now she’s 20, and it’s been hectic at work recently – last month was one of the busiest they’d had in a while. The original poster (OP) thought it better if she took on the simpler contracts and orders – jobs that only required one person so that she could do them herself.
#4. A Fence Farce
One of the contracts she chose was to make new balcony fence planks to replace the existing ones for a client. She talked with the customer on the phone beforehand and went to theirs later to take some measurements and other details.
#6. His Face Said It All
She could tell something was off when she arrived – the client, an older man, had a strange look on his face and asked her if someone else was coming later.
She’s experienced this many times and knew he was asking whether a man would be coming around later.
#7. A Joke Too Far?
Perhaps stupidly, she tried to lighten the mood by replying, “How hard can using a tape measure and a drill be?”
Inoffensive but easily seen as inappropriate to an older customer’s mind – he wasn’t particularly impressed with her wry joke.
#8. He Didn’t Trust Her Skills
After she finished measuring up, the customer said, “I hope those measurements are correct,” and then asked if she would be responsible for making the new planks and removing and installing the replacements.
She was annoyed at his sexist insinuation but told him she probably would be.
A few days passed, and the OP made the new planks to spec and went to replace the old ones at the man’s house.
#9. The Mansplaining Begins
At first, he didn’t say much, as she had measured the planks correctly and made them well.
But after a while, he started nagging her, telling her that she was holding tools wrong (when she wasn’t) and that she was making a mess with the removal of the old rotted planks.
#10. She’d Handled This Sort Of Thing Before
She could handle this. It was tolerable to her, even though he was basically breathing down her neck while trying to do her job.
#11. His Sexism Rears Its Head
What wasn’t tolerable was when she asked the customer to pass her a tool, and he said, “see, this is why trades are male-dominated.”
He started criticizing her for asking him for help, saying, “you said you could do it yourself!”
#12. She’s New to the Job
She realizes now that asking him for help and keeping him around while working was a mistake, but she’s young and hasn’t had many solo jobs. She won’t make that mistake again!
#13. A Half-Bad Compliment
Once she had completed the job, the customer told her that it “wasn’t half bad” but could be better and faster. She was furious!
She had done the job well – the planks were sized well, lined and distanced properly, and matched the older rotten planks.
The paintwork was excellent! Why did it take longer? Perhaps it was because he had been breathing down her neck the entire time?
#14. A “Normal” Woodworker Would Do It Right
She asked him to explain what was wrong so that she could fix it and make it better than “half bad,” but he replied that it wasn’t anything in particular, just that a “normal” woodworker would do it faster and better.
#15. She Was Furious!
This lit her fuse; she’d had enough of this older man looking down on her for being a female in the trade.
She shouted at him, “well, I repaired your f******* fence; that makes me a woodworker!
Or does it not, because women can’t be in trades? Why didn’t you just do it yourself when you knew a woman was going to do the job in the first place?!”
#16. He Tried To Take The High Ground
He only replied that she should respect her elders and not raise her voice to customers. Although the OP agrees that she shouldn’t have raised her voice, she said, “I can tolerate only so much. AITA?”
#17. Reddit Users Respond
Reddit users thought that this 20-year-old woodworker was NTA (not the a**hole) and that the older man was in the wrong for being openly sexist to her.
The top-voted Redditor said, “Hahahaha NTA. He’s a sexist old man wanting to uphold his “superiority” for as long as he possibly can. I’d have snapped back at him, “you’re right, I am much faster when I don’t have a chauvinistic pig mansplaining to me the whole time. Have a nice day.”
What do you think about this story? Was she right to have stuck up for herself, even though it meant shouting at a client?
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Source: Reddit