In a recent Reddit post, a single mother sought advice on whether she would be considered in the wrong for not inviting her son’s father to his upcoming graduation ceremony.
His Father Was Not Involved In His Life
Although he regularly visits him, her son’s father has never really been involved in his life.
He showed no concern for him as a child and he has never attended a single activity that the Original Poster’s (OP) son participated in at school or anywhere.
Plus, he never brought his son to any doctors, even though the son spent two years living with his father.
Her Ex and His Wife Are Not Good Parents
OP mentioned that her ex and his wife have a second child and they always complain about how awful she is, but they also spoil her so they don’t have to put up with her tantrums.
Their daughter is aged 12, and she continues to throw outbursts at them to get her way. They are always at work, thus no one is ever watching the kids.
Her Son Moved Back In With Her
OP’s son requested to move back in with OP after spending two years living with his Dad because he felt his basic needs were not being met.
Naturally, OP was glad to see him again and OP pointed out that her son moved in with his Dad two years ago after pleading and fighting with OP for more than a year.
OP only gave in because her doctor advised her to reduce her stress levels. After all, OP was pregnant at the time and it was a high-risk pregnancy.
He Was Stressed When He Lived With His Dad
Her son had thought that moving in with his Dad would be terrific as his father doesn’t care about what his children do.
He made an effort to be closer to his father while he was living with him, but his Dad was usually too exhausted or busy to pay him any attention. Now OP’s son no longer cares much for his father.
Her Son Is Trans
OP mentioned his son is Trans on top of everything else. And his stepmom and father don’t like to use his preferred name or pronouns. This also caused a lot of stress to OP’s son.
Things Took a Turn
Things truly went off the rails when OP’s son recently visited his father’s place for a weekend.
When OP’s son moved back to her, he hadn’t brought all his things and he kept some of his belongings at his father’s house.
Surprisingly, many of them had vanished and it turned out that his sister was stealing them.
They Argue
He got angry and yelled at his sister.
Then, he called OP in tears after his stepmom yelled at him, placed the blame on him, and refused to bring him home when he wanted to go.
She Decided to Not Invite Him
As a result of all these incidents, now OP is planning to not invite her son’s father to his graduation ceremony.
She Asked Readers
She took to Reddit to ask whether she was wrong for doing this. Several Redditors sided with OP and said that she did the right thing.
One Reddit user wrote, “If they can’t even bother to learn his preferred name and pronouns then they clearly don’t deserve to be there.”
Another Redditor commented, “I do think it is your son’s decision. It is your job to support him, not your ex. I would make sure, I am sure he knows but, that he understands the long-term impact this will have. If he is still firm after that conversation then that’s the decision.”
So what do you think? What would you do if you were in this situation?
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