Recently a woman took to Reddit to ask whether she was wrong for asking her son and his family to leave her home. Here’s the full story.
Her Son’s Girlfriend Is Pregnant
The Original Poster (OP) is a 63-year-old who lives with her 67-year-old husband.
Her 38-year-old son’s girlfriend became pregnant during the pandemic. After finding out, she moved in with her son and his roommates were not happy.
Then They Both Lost Their Jobs
His girlfriend was unable to or refused to obtain employment, and a few months later he too lost his job. He was no longer able to pay his rent, especially after his disgruntled roommates left.
They Were Kicked Out For Not Paying Rent
They stayed for seven months before being kicked out. They now have an eviction on their record, bad credit, and thousands of dollars in credit card debt as a result of living off of credit cards.
She Took Them In
OP said that her son had lived with them until he was 31 years old and so they didn’t them to move in. But, because his girlfriend was about to give birth, they took them in anyway.
It Was Supposed to Be for 6 Months
They agreed to stay for around half a year until both of them find new jobs. They would contribute to the cost of electricity, pay down their credit card debt, and find a new home.
After six months, OP asked them to leave but they refused.
They said that no one would rent to them because of the eviction on their record and they didn’t have enough money for utility bills.
They Didn’t Contribute Anything
As a result, OP and her husband had to pay extra for utilities including food.
Her son and his family would eat what was in the refrigerator rather than go shopping for groceries.
She Even Took Care of Her Grandchild’s Expenses
OP initially volunteered to help them with infant expenditures like diapers, car seats, and others too, but OP is still paying for them almost a year later.
Her son and his girlfriend were working door dashes for a while but they only worked for 3 to 4 hours per day.
She Urged His Son to Find a Job
OP persisted in urging her son to find full-time work, but he just became irate and accused OP of harassing him.
His girlfriend is also incredibly messy and doesn’t tidy up after herself.
They Won’t Accept Responsibility
OP is irritated that they chose to have a child but won’t accept responsibility.
She says she has changed more diapers and fed her grandchild more frequently than her son and his girlfriend.
Things Took a Turn
OP had planned to go to Chile after she retired two years ago, it’s where she is originally from. But their trip was on hold.
She Decided to Sell the House
They were supposed to sell the house last year but decided against it in favor of letting her son and his family stay. But now OP and her husband have grown tired of having them around.
Her son and his girlfriend have refused OP’s repeated requests for them to leave, so OP decided to list her house for sale.
OP received a fair offer, closed over the weekend, and gave her son and his family two months to move.
Her Son Got Angry
However, OP’s son got angry, broke some ornaments, and raged at OP and her husband for throwing them out and disregarding him.
But OP didn’t care about it and moved on.
They Had to Move Out
Finally, her son and his girlfriend and child had to move out and were temporarily homeless.
But, they are now staying with a friend, and they are only allowing them to do so through the end of the month. After that, they will need to make other arrangements.
OP’s son called and shouted at OP and threatened to never let her see her grandchild again for throwing them out.
She Turned to Reddit
OP says her son couldn’t be an adult, get a job, and move out on his own without being forced, and she is currently not sure whether she was wrong for what she did. So, she took to Reddit to ask for opinions, and hundreds of comments poured in supporting OP.
One Redditor wrote, “Your son and his gf did this to themselves. 7 months is a long time to go before being evicted. They could have taken steps to get back on their feet. They did not. Once they moved in with you, they could have taken steps to pay off their credit cards and get back on their feet. They did not. It is unfortunate that a child is caught in the middle of all this because his parents are not willing to take responsibility for themselves.”
So what do you think? Did OP do the right thing here?
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