On a recent Reddit thread, a soon-to-be mother questioned her decision to block her husband from seeing images of their unborn child, after he called the baby ugly.
The Couple and Their Expecting Journey
The Original Poster (OP), a 26-year-old, is married to a 30-year-old man named Ben.
The couple is eagerly awaiting the birth of their first child in just three weeks.
It’s not OP’s first child. She already has an 8-year-old child from a previous relationship.
He Doesn’t Have a Filter
Ben is known for not having a filter, often saying things without thinking about the potential impact on others.
This can be quite frustrating for OP, who is a more cautious and thoughtful communicator.
He Struggles with Social Cues
Ben has considered that he might have an issue with understanding social cues but has not pursued any professional help to address it.
OP’s 4D Ultrasound Experience
Recently, OP went to a prenatal appointment where she had a 4D ultrasound.
This was her first experience with this technology, and she was very excited to see her unborn baby’s face.
Seeing the Baby’s Facial Features
The ultrasound images may have looked like a “crisp lasagna” to the untrained eye, but OP was delighted to see her baby’s facial features for the first time.
Sharing the Ultrasound with Ben
Upon returning home, OP eagerly awaited Ben’s arrival to share the ultrasound photos and videos with him.
Ben’s Insensitive Comment
When Ben got home, she sat him down and showed him the clearest image from the ultrasound.
OP pointed out the baby’s eyes, nose, and mouth. Ben’s immediate response was to call the baby ugly.
Ben’s comment greatly upset OP, causing her to lock her phone and refuse to show Ben any more images.
She questioned why she should share the rest of the photos if Ben would simply insult their baby.
Ben was surprised by OP’s reaction and argued that since she sometimes calls the baby names when she’s in pain, his comment should be considered fair game.
His Defense and Her Insistence
OP, however, insisted that the situations were different.
Ben continued to defend his right to call the baby ugly and even expressed hope that the baby would not look the same upon birth.
Refusal to Share More Photos
OP continued to refuse to show Ben any more images and asked him to leave the room.
Inability to Understand
Despite this, Ben remained upset that she would not share the rest of the images and failed to understand why she was so distraught.
OP wondered if her reaction was a result of pregnancy hormones and questioned whether she was overreacting. Or, if Ben was just being thoughtless.
The Reddit Community Weighs In
Reddit users quickly weighed in with their opinions. Many of them agreed Ben was the one in the wrong for calling the baby ugly. They didn’t understand why he thought that was okay to say.
One user wrote, “OP, maybe start thinking about his good qualities? Are there any? Because it really doesn’t sound like it. It sounds like he’s a bully who uses “I don’t have a filter” as an excuse.”
What Would You Have Done in This Situation?
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