She Asked Her Partner for More Alone Time, He Freaked Out and Has Become Extremely Clingy and Emotional

In relationships, finding the right balance between togetherness and personal space is crucial for both individuals to thrive. One person took to Reddit to ask whether she is in the wrong for wanting more alone time with her partner after a year of practically living together.

They Live Together

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The Original Poster (OP) aged 22 has been living happily together with her 22-year-old partner for a year.

They Are Complete Opposites

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OP characterizes her demeanor as calm, reserved, and rather stiff.

The very reverse is true with her partner. He is impulsive, touchy, and highly sensitive to both positive and negative emotions.

They Have Their Arguments

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However, recently, they have had many quarrels about the same reoccurring thing.

Her Parent’s Don’t Know About Them

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OP shares that her partner has been spending every day and night at her apartment for the past year, without her parents’ knowledge.

He Doesn’t Contribute Financially

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Her partner didn’t even contribute to anything of their expenses until last month when they started sharing the cost of groceries due to OP’s limited financial means.

As a foreign student, OP is reliant on her parents for financial support. She was acutely aware of how jeopardizing this arrangement might affect her personal development, studies, and ambitions.

She Came up With a Plan

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OP’s partner is also emotionally reliant on OP, and she realized she needs to regain a sense of balance and prioritize her own needs.

She proposed a schedule where they spend weekdays apart and spend weekends together.

She Explained It Delicately to Him

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OP made an effort to explain this to him in the most delicate manner possible, giving him all her “good reasons” in the hopes that they would make sense to him.

He Became Emotional

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Instead, he believed that OP was losing interest in him, kicked the wall, and started crying as a result of this. He became emotional and hadn’t fully recovered.

He wasn’t happy, saying it was strange that OP was making this change after a year, but OP replied it is not because she doesn’t feel anything for him.

She explained to him that she has realized that she was not ready to purposefully move in with him, something her parents would be strongly against.

They Agreed

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Eventually, they agreed and carried on. However, since this “day rationing” between them began, he has routinely become emotional.

Things Became Worse

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Recently, OP was fed up with consoling him, she was worn out and carried on with her studies.

As a result, he started sobbing and wrote a message saying “Every day I spend with you I get hurt, I love you so much I’m blind and can’t see it,” and left.

She Felt Bad

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This made OP feel awful, and she began to wonder whether she could be handling this situation poorly because of her partner’s frequent, strong responses and whether her desire for more alone time is hurting him.

She Asked Readers for Support

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She took to Reddit to ask for opinions and many sided with OP saying she was not wrong. One Redditor said that OP’s partner’s traits are not healthy and that she should take him for professional help.

Another Reddit user wrote, “His behaviors are very concerning. I’m not sure if he’ll potentially become physically abusive later, though kicking the wall is a red flag. At the very least, he’s way too dependent on you. He very clearly needs therapy to help him cope when he cannot be around you.”

A third Redditor pointed out that this guy isn’t actually ready for a relationship as he’s unstable and manipulative. What would you do? Did OP do the right thing?

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