Is She a Jerk for Telling Her Dad She Would Never Forgive Him if He Made Them Go to Family Court While Her Mum Had Cancer?

In a recent thread on Reddit, a teenager asked if she was in the wrong for telling her dad she would never forgive him if he took her grandparents to court.

The teenage girl in question is 16. Her mom has recently been diagnosed with Ovarian cancer, which has sadly spread throughout her body. 

Her mom put up a good fight, but about a month ago, her doctors decided it would be best if she went home to hospice – her mom agreed.

Since her diagnosis, her mom has had multiple treatments for cancer at the hospital. During this time, the teenager’s grandparents took temporary custody of her because her mom was too ill to look after her.

This teenage girl usually spends the weekends at her dad’s house – she has since her parents divorced when she was five. 

She enjoys spending them there. Five years ago, her dad married her now stepmom, and she gained two stepsisters. 

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Her dad’s house is small, and her stepsisters share a room. She has to sleep on a sofa in the living room whenever she stays, so it isn’t an ideal place to visit all the time.

Since her mom went home to hospice, this teenage girl has wanted to spend as much time as possible with her. Her grandparents haven’t forced her to go to her dad’s; they understand she wants to spend time with her sickly mother.

However, this has upset her dad, who has taken it personally, despite her explaining she wants to spend more time with her dying mom.

The girl’s upset dad and wife visited her at her grandparent’s house today. He argued with her grandparents, and he was angry that they hadn’t encouraged her to see him more often.

Her grandparents argued back, explaining that she could make her own decisions and had every right to want to spend time with her mom, especially considering her condition.

Her dad was annoyed by this, and he brought up the divorce court agreement that says she must see him weekly. He threatened her grandparents by saying he’ll take them to court if he had to.

This threat was too much for the teenager, and she had to step in. She told him, “if you make us deal with the family court while my mom is on hospice and we’re just trying to spend as much time together as possible, I’ll never forgive you.”

Her stepmom called her a brat for trying to “guilt trip” her dad. Her stepmom said she understands she wants to spend time with her mom, but that doesn’t mean she can just stop seeing her dad.

The teenage girl explained in her Reddit post that her mom wants her to live with her grandparents full-time but continue seeing her dad on weekends if she wants to. She concluded her post by asking, “so, AITA?”

Reddit users loved Bitter-Conflict-4089’s comment. They said the girl was NTA (not the a**hole) because “his wife called you names and he allowed it.”

ButterflyWings71 agreed, adding, “esp knowing her poor mom is in hospice. beyond cruel & insensitive on both of them & most courts (states I worked & lived in) would make OP stay with such vile people (not to mention lack of space & stepmom’s verbal abuse). So sorry OP is dealing with all of this.”

Finallyinfinite’s comment got over 4000 upvotes. They said, “NTA. Your step mom doesn’t “understand” you wanting to spend your limited time with your mother, or else she wouldn’t be trying to take it away.”

They continued, “They have a right to want to stick to a court-ordered contract. But this is clearly a temporary extenuating circumstance, and I don’t think it’s unreasonable to be upset with them for not being willing to make an exception for your sake.”

The teenage girl responded to this, explaining, “It’s definitely only something I wanted to do temporarily like I said I enjoy going over to my dad’s house even though sleeping on the couch isn’t ideal but I much rather be with my mom while I can”

Dizzy_Yard7671 agreed with the overall Reddit verdict of NTA, saying, “You are old enough to decide and the court will agree. You’re also not wrong to want to spend as much time with your mom as you can; hospice is usually end of life care. I’m just sorry you’re even in this position.”

Reddit users were on the side of the teenage girl, but what do you think? Should she have said that to her dad?

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Source: Reddit