A Reddit user asked the community if she was making the wrong choice in planning to host a dry wedding.
A (Very) Dry Wedding
The Original Poster (OP) planned on only serving water at her upcoming wedding.
Making the Guest List
OP and her husband are getting married later this year. They both have big families and expect around 100-150 people to attend. OP and her husband will be paying for most of it, but her grandmother has offered to chip in as well.
Sticking to the Basics
OP states that there are a lot of kids in their family, so they decided against making it a child-free event. But the wedding will also be completely dry, meaning there will be no alcohol at all.
OP decided to do this since she and her fiance do not drink. They do not have anything against people who do, they just have decided they just don’t need it in their lives.
She Wants to Save Money
OP says that the food is the most expensive part of the wedding since there will be so many people. The meal will be completely catered and there will be plenty of choices for the guests, but only water will be provided to drink.
OP says that alcohol and soda are a big added expense and if they just offer water they would save a lot of money.
Guests Were Not Excited
Once word got out that it was going to be a dry wedding, OP says that some of their family and friends were very upset.
Some of the family and friends suggested that OP should at least spring for a cash bar and they would pay for their own drinks.
OP doesn’t want to do this either. They would still have to pay for the bartender and any other additional expenses that go along with that idea.
The Wedding Is Going to Be Boring
Some of the guests also urged OP to at least have soda because they “cannot expect everyone to drink ONLY water”. They added that the kids would be upset with the lack of options and that the wedding will be boring overall.
Turning to Reddit
OP is now asking the Reddit community if they should spring for soda to at least make some of the guests happy. OP is torn about having to pay the extra cost to have soda at the wedding but also wants everyone to have a good time.
The Reddit thread had over 10,000 comments, most of which say OP should provide a few drink options for their guests at the wedding. Many users agreed that it’s okay to skip alcohol since that is such an expensive cost. But the overall sentiment was that soda or tea is much less to add on.
One Reddit user wrote “Listen, it’s your wedding and you can do what you want. But also, you’re HOSTING an event. Not having alcohol is one thing, but not even having coffee, soda, or tea? It feels cheap and inconsiderate.”
Not a Way to Remember a Wedding
Other users said that some of the most memorable weddings (and not in a good way) were weddings that felt like the happy couple didn’t make an effort to thank the guests for coming by providing adequate food or drink. Horror stories were swapped as commenters described some of these weddings.
One Reddit user stated that this decision would affect people’s perception of the bride and groom well beyond the festivities. They wrote “OP sounds like they are only thinking about their preferences and not about their guest’s enjoyment or being gracious hosts. Guests probably may not remember the decor, dresses, etc – aka the things the bride/groom often obsess about – but they will remember the tacky hosts who only gave them filtered tap water to drink.”
What Do You Think
What do you think? Should OP serve more than water at their wedding? Would a dry/water-only event be boring to attend?
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