This tale follows Chad, who was in hot water and looking to the Reddit community to get him out of it. He questioned his girlfriend’s choice of friends, and it definitely didn’t go down well. Let’s take a look at his predicament.
Chad’s Blissful Start With an Amazing Woman
Chad, a 28-year-old guy, had started dating a lovely 27-year-old lady about four months ago. From the start, things felt just right. She was not only beautiful, but also smart, funny, and kind-hearted.
Love Blossomed
They liked the same stuff and had so much fun together. She was smart too, with a great job, and she seemed to be doing so well in life.
Meeting the Friends
It was just the two of them for the first couple of months. But then, she began introducing Chad to her friends. The first time, they went out with a gay couple. They were great fun, so Chad didn’t think much about it.
Diverse Friendships
But soon after, he met a few more of her pals at a friendly potluck. One of her friends was in a wheelchair, while another was quite short, shorter than most adults. Chad still didn’t make a big deal out of it. People are just people, right?
A Mix of Personalities
But the next meeting threw him off a bit. They had brunch with her coworker, who was a trans person and still early in their transitioning journey. Her brother was also there, and Chad learned he had only one leg and used a prosthetic.
Unsettling Thoughts
Now Chad started to wonder. Why did this amazing lady, who seemed to have everything going for her, only have friends with struggles?
Innocent Inquiry or Prejudiced Assumption?
He couldn’t hold back his questions. He asked her directly if she had friends without apparent disabilities or challenges because, so far, he had only met those who did.
What a bizarre question!
Chad’s Theory
She seemed bothered by his question, but Chad didn’t stop there. He suggested that she might have low self-esteem, and that’s why she forms relationships with people who “are worse off than her, so she can feel better about herself.”
Shockingly, he suggested she try therapy, thinking it might help her!
The Thought Behind His Words
Chad wasn’t saying this out of nowhere. She had told him before that she had taken medicine for anxiety. In his mind, he was trying to be helpful and wanted to support her.
Communication Breakdown
But it seemed he made a mistake. She was INCREDIBLY upset. She immediately stopped responding to the conversation, called him a “jerkface”, and after that, she mostly gave him the silent treatment.
Silent Treatment
For almost a week, she wouldn’t start conversations and only occasionally sent him short, cold texts in response to him.
From Care to Catastrophe
Chad was now left wondering. He thought he was being caring. But from her reaction, it looked like he had hurt her feelings. Did he do something really wrong?
Seeking Clarity
He felt lost. Did he overstep? He just wanted to understand and be there for her. But maybe he went about it the wrong way. That’s why he turned to the Reddit community for advice. And boy, did they let him have it!
Red Flag City
The overwhelming response from Redditors was that Chad was in the wrong. Many were quick to call him out with comments like, “You’re a jerk, and what kind of person judges someone’s friends based on their physical characteristics?”
A Harsh Wake-up Call
The sentiment was widespread that Chad’s perspective on her friends – whether they were gay, trans, disabled, or short – was prejudiced and misplaced. One Redditor pointed out, “Being straight or tall doesn’t make someone better.”
He’s Got Some Learning to Do
Some comments also highlighted the fact that among the friends Chad mentioned, only two had physical disabilities, and one was her brother – implying that Chad was mistakenly equating being gay or trans with having a disability.
Others praised the girlfriend’s empathy and compassion for having a diverse circle of friends, while Chad’s judgement of them was seen as a massive red flag.
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