A Reddit user asked the community if they thought he was in the wrong for calling out his brother’s girlfriend and her controlling behavior.
Gamers No More
The Original Poster (OP) and his brother, both males aged 31 and 28 respectively, often play various games together. However, a few months ago, the brother decided to move in with his girlfriend.
OP’s Dilemma With His GF
Initially, OP thought highly of his brother’s girlfriend, and everything seemed to be going well. However, during one gaming session, the girlfriend was not happy when they were matched with two women players who had microphones.
She made it clear that she did not want her boyfriend to engage in any games with female players.
Brother Chooses His Girlfriend Over Gaming
In an effort to honor his brother’s girlfriend’s wishes, OP’s brother chose to exit the game.
His Girlfriend’s Insecurities Changed Their Playstyle
Following that experience, whenever they played games requiring microphones and had random team members, they only continued playing if all their teammates were men.
She Was Uncomfortable
However, a more significant issue arose during a different game, where they joined a party for a dungeon run and encountered three players using female avatars.
The girlfriend expressed her dissatisfaction with this situation as well, as it was unclear if the players were male or female, causing discomfort for her.
It Was a Difficult Situation for All
OP found navigating his brother’s girlfriend’s boundaries challenging when playing games together.
They spent significant time trying to find other players who wouldn’t violate her boundaries, which often required asking players about their gender before agreeing to play with them.
He Thought the Question Was Unnecessary
This process made OP feel uncomfortable, as he felt it was intrusive and awkward. Additionally, the effort to find a party that met the girlfriend’s approval cut into OP’s already limited time, making it challenging to enjoy the gaming experience.
They Stopped Hanging Out As Much
OP’s gaming sessions with his brother decreased significantly from two to three times a week in the afternoon to only once a week, with no consistent schedule.
He Played Without His Brother
Despite feeling disappointed, OP respected his brother’s relationship and said nothing about the situation.
Instead, he adjusted his gaming schedule to play later at night after putting his kids to bed.
A Recent MeetUp
OP attended a friend’s birthday celebration recently, where he ran into his brother and his brother’s girlfriend.
During their conversation, the brother asked if OP wanted to play games together later in the week, to which he replied that he would think about it.
He Called Out the Odd Behavior
However, OP also expressed his concerns about their gaming sessions, explaining that his limited free time made it difficult to spend it searching for players who only played male characters because his brother’s girlfriend was uncomfortable with female characters.
OP further added that he was tired of sounding like a creep by asking players about their gender before playing with them.
He Was Also Frustrated with the GF
After the birthday party, OP received a text from his brother late at night, saying that he and his girlfriend had been fighting.
The brother expressed his understanding of why OP had voiced his concerns, as he too had felt frustrated with their situation.
But Didn’t Want to Talk About It Further
However, he also believed that OP should have kept his thoughts to himself, as the brother usually did, instead of speaking up.
OP began to wonder if he was in the wrong for being straightforward instead of sugarcoating the issue or telling a lie to avoid conflict.
Reddit Users Weigh In
Reddit users are unanimous in their opinion that the brother’s girlfriend is being unreasonable and controlling.
They point out that her insecurities and jealousy are not boundaries and that the brother is in an abusive relationship. They express concern for the brother’s well-being and advise OP to maintain his boundaries.
Many of them suggest that the girlfriend’s behavior is a red flag, and that the brother needs to stand up for himself and address the issue with her. They also criticize the brother for expecting OP to deal with his relationship issues in silence. Overall, the consensus is that OP is not the jerk and that the brother’s girlfriend needs to address her insecurities.
One user stated “Your brother’s girlfriend is being ridiculous. She’s jealous of him hearing other women’s voices? She’s jealous of him looking at female video game characters? She doesn’t want him interacting with any other women, real or imaginary? Dude I think you were WAY nicer about this than you needed to be. You are not responsible for her insecurities or their weird ass relationship.”
What do you think? Should OP have expressed his concerns?
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