This mother took to Reddit to get something off her chest. She’s heartbroken because her daughter’s best friend’s parents have banned her from seeing their daughter! Read on to find out more.
Her Sweet Daughter
Her 9-year-old daughter is extremely shy and doesn’t have many friends. But she does have a best friend, with whom she’s been close for the past three years.
They do everything together, from playdates to weekend getaways at the chalet up north with her best friend’s parents! The original poster (OP) has always got along well with her mother.
She Was an Open-Minded Mom
This mother has always talked to her children about the future, including the possibility of having a boyfriend or girlfriend, in a casual way.
This mother has noticed that her daughter has shown an interest in girls in the past, but she hasn’t made a big deal out of it.
She’s Happy to Let Her Daughter Figure Life Out Herself
OP understands that it can be hard to distinguish between a close friendship and romantic love at her age, and she’s happy to let her daughter figure it out on her own.
She Told Her Best Friend Something
Recently, her daughter told her best friend that she loved her in a “girlfriend” way, but her best friend responded that she loved her like a friend.
That was the end of it, and there was no harassment or further pursuit.
Her Best Friend Told Her Mom
However, the next day, the best friend’s mother called OP and said that she didn’t want the girls to play together anymore because they were clearly not raising their children the same way!
She Said What?!
She told OP that she didn’t want her daughter to have a “bad influence” on her daughter!
She’d Raised a Tolerant Child
OP has always raised her kids to accept everyone, no matter their differences, choices, genders, preferences, and colors, and has instilled in them an open-mindedness that she learned from her own mother.
It’s 2023, Not 1923
OP is outraged that in 2023, there is still so much taboo surrounding love and preferences. She was raised the same way and now has a husband.
Teaching Her Daughter About the World
She’s trying to explain to her daughter that not everyone has the same open mind as they do, and although they can appreciate and love anyone as long as they are kind people, it’s not the same everywhere.
Some Kids Might Not Be There Yet
She’s teaching her daughter to be patient and accept that some kids may not be able to discuss those things because they may not have encountered or had that conversation with their parents yet.
Her best friend is gay, so it’s in her normality, but not everyone has that same understanding.
She’s Taught Her Daughter About Racism
OP had a conversation with her daughter about racism not long ago. She explained that some people would judge a person without even knowing them due to their color or categorize them all in the same basket just because of their color.
And Her Daughter Was Confused
Her daughter didn’t understand how people could judge or dislike someone without knowing them, which is a fantastic mentality.
Today was an example of how, unfortunately, it’s the same about love preferences and gender.
Is It Homophobic?
OP is open-minded and has tried turning the situation over and over in her head, but she still sees it as homophobia.
She knows that her daughter saying “I love you” in a certain way doesn’t define her whole personality, and it’s difficult knowing that they’ve been best friends for so long.
It Sure Is Ridiculous
She thinks the other girl’s mother’s reaction is ridiculous, and she can’t believe that this is happening in a country and city where people are supposed to be open-minded.
Her Daughter Was Heartbroken
She had to break the news to her daughter, and it was so heartbreaking. Her daughter’s eyes filled with tears, her jaw was shaking, and her heart was beating so fast.
She tried to explain to her that not everyone has the same understanding as they do and that they should still accept and appreciate everyone.
She’s teaching her daughter to be strong and true to herself, even if others don’t understand her.
She Wants Her Daughter to Be Confident and Happy
OP is a fierce mother who loves her daughter unconditionally and wants her to be happy and confident in who she is.
She’s teaching her to stand up for what she believes in and to be kind to everyone, even if they don’t understand her.
Her Best Friend’s Loss
The other girl’s mother may not see it now, but her daughter is missing out on an incredible friendship, and she’s depriving her daughter of a true friendship!
She’s heartbroken that this one comment has threatened her daughter’s friendship. She believes love is love, and it shouldn’t matter what gender it’s between.
A World of Love and Acceptance
She hopes that one day, everyone will be able to accept and love each other for who they are, regardless of their differences. For now, she will continue to raise her children to be open-minded and accepting of everyone, and she hopes that someday, the other mother will be able to do the same.
Reddit users were sad for this woman’s daughter. One user said, “When I was a kid, I thought I would marry my cousin. He was my best friend and I loved him. Of course I figured out that’s not how it works (well… most of the time), but the point is that kids are so innocent. They just love with their whole hearts. They don’t think about it much more deeply than love itself. I’m sorry you dealt with this and that your daughter will be hurt.”
What do you think about this mother’s philosophy on raising her child? Do you think the other mother was fair in her response?
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