Recently a person took to Reddit to ask if he was wrong for not allowing his in-laws to move in with his family. Here’s the full story.
A Happy Family
The Original Poster (OP) is a 39-year-old who has been happily married to his 38-year-old wife for 15 years. They have 3 children aged 12, 9, and 7.
His SIL Lives in Florida
Ann aged 36, the younger sister of OP’s wife, currently resides in Florida with her GF and two children aged 15 and 10.
His SIL Came Out as Bi
About five years ago, Ann divorced her kids’ father and came out as bisexual.
Although OP is unaware of the specifics regarding her divorce, OP knows that she was given primary custody of her children following a protracted and contentious custody dispute.
His SIL Became Homeless
The story began when OP’s wife approached him last weekend and said she needed to talk.
OP’s wife wasn’t sure, but it appears that Ann’s landlord either declined to renew the lease for the home they rent, or they raised the rate to force Ann out.
She Wanted to Leave Florida
As a result, Ann must vacate their home by June 1st. Plus, Ann wants to relocate her family from Florida due to recent political developments in the state.
OP’s family resides in a Midwest state with a far more accepting political climate for LGBTQ+ people.
Ann informed OP’s wife that both she and her girlfriend believe that relocating their family to their state would be beneficial for them.
His SIL Asked to Stay With Them
However, they have tight deadlines because of their living conditions. So, while they look for housing, Ann asked OP’s wife if they can stay with OP’s family.
He Was Not Happy With The Idea
OP admitted to his wife that he has a lot of doubts about that idea.
Since they only have one additional bedroom, finding a place for everyone to sleep would be challenging and possibly require grouping the kids’ rooms.
He Explained His Reasons
OP now works from home and has an office there, this would have a direct effect on OP’s professional status.
Additionally, OP mentions that the property market in their region is currently quite tight. Homes are selling quickly and for prices over market value. Nothing has improved in the rental market.
It Will Be for a While
As a result, all of this made OP think that if Ann and her family decide to stay with them, it won’t be for a brief period of time. OP says he and his children will be the ones affected by this in the most immediate way.
OP and his wife discussed those issues, and OP informed her that he doesn’t believe it was a good idea.
OP thinks Ann is asking a lot of their family, and he doesn’t think they are in a good position to take them in. Although he feels horrible for the predicament Ann and her family are in.
His Wife Was Not Happy
But OP’s wife was not at all pleased with OP’s response. She said that OP had previously taken his brother and his family in on short-term trips and didn’t care about her sister.
They Argued
OP said that those circumstances were very different.
He went on to say that they were aware of the precise length of his brother’s stay and his brother ultimately stayed for one week shorter than they had planned.
Plus at that time, OP had 2 additional bedrooms and he wasn’t working from home. As a result, OP’s wife got upset and stopped speaking to OP.
Readers Weigh In
OP felt bad and he asked Reddit whether he was wrong for what he did. Hundreds of Reddit comments poured in supporting OP.
One Reddit user said that what OP describes will probably put a big strain on his marriage. And if OP does agree to it, make sure it’s for a clearly defined short-term time, and then they move out, regardless.
Another Redditor commented, “You articulated clear and cogent reasons for declining to allow them to stay with you. I understand your wife wants to help her sister, but this just doesn’t feel like a reasonable ask to me. You’re right that you and your kids will be most impacted by this, and also that if the housing market is bad, their “temporary” stay could become indefinite.”
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