An engineer recently asked Redditors for their opinions after he gaslighted a coworker into thinking that everyone considers him to be an emotional crybaby. Here is the full story.
It’s a Tight Team
OP is an engineer who works on a team with 8 other engineers.
His company has a very flat structure, with mostly just the engineers and corporate management.
He’s a Real Hothead
Most of OP’s teammates are calm and reasonable, but one coworker has severe anger issues.
This guy often resorts to yelling and getting in people’s faces during disagreements, creating a hostile work environment.
The Boss Didn’t Care
Initially, OP approached his boss to address the issue, expressing his concerns about the aggressive behavior.
But the boss brushed it off, suggesting that the individual’s behavior was just a part of who they were.
It Used to Be Even Worse
OP’s boss even said that the hothead’s behavior had improved a lot compared to how he acted 10 years ago. He had mellowed out quite a bit, according to the boss.
His Mind Was Blown
That idea blew OP’s mind, because the coworker is far from mellow now. He can’t even imagine how bad the guy must have been a decade ago!
He Was Alone
Since the company has no dedicated HR department, there weren’t really any proper channels for addressing the issue.
And since OP’s boss brushed it off, it was challenging to find a resolution or support of any kind.
He Tried Something New
Frustrated by the lack of action, OP devised a different approach to dealing with his angry coworker.
The plan was to change the man’s reputation within the company and the dynamics within the team.
He Was Like a Baby
OP decided to reframe the bully’s behavior by using subtle language shifts, replacing terms like “arguing” or “yelling” with terms like “emotional,” “throwing a tantrum,” or “having a fit.”
The Vibes Were Wrong
OP wanted to kill off the bully’s “big man vibes” and expose his true “weak sad baby vibes” for the whole world to see.
Maybe then, he’d finally change his ugly behavior.
He Made the Bully Look Weak
OP put his plan into action by first making subtle comments during meetings or conversations with colleagues.
Little by little, he was able to gradually shift the perception of the bully’s behavior from dominant and aggressive to emotionally unstable and weak.
He Was Very Emotional
At every opportunity, OP began to highlight how “emotional” the coworker was becoming during discussions or disagreements.
He’d even replay meetings back to his boss, noting that the coworker threw a “hissy fit” or “temper tantrum.”
He Got Them on His Side
Over time, coworkers started to pick up on OP’s comments and incorporate similar language when discussing the individual’s outbursts, inadvertently reinforcing the new perception.
Too Emotional to Understand
Encouraged by the growing support from colleagues, OP finally directly confronted the hothead.
During one tirade, OP told the man that he had difficulty in understanding his points when he was so emotional.
He Wouldn’t Let Up
That eventually became the norm, with OP consistently calling out his coworker as emotional whenever his temper started to flare.
He Was Going to Cry
Finally, after one confrontation, the coworker asked OP why he consistently labeled him as emotional.
OP casually pointed out that the man was on the verge of tears, which only further agitated him.
Mission Accomplished
OP knows that he gaslighted his coworker to an extent, but he’s happy that perceptions have started to change. Redditors strongly support OP and the actions he took to overcome his bully at work.
So, what do you think of this story? Was OP right for trying something new to change perceptions of the work bully Or did he go too far in playing mind games with the guy and turning him into an emotional mess?
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