A frustrated Reddit user asked in a subthread if they were in the wrong for gifting their date a cake for their birthday this year, resulting in a bad evening for both partners.
A Missed Birthday
The Original Poster (OP), a 29-year-old man, has been dating his partner, a 26-year-old man, Doug, for over a month.
Doug’s birthday had recently passed, but due to his law school commitments, he was unable to celebrate it on the day.
A Makeup Birthday Cake Idea
Instead, OP suggested that they make up for it by visiting a DIY baking cafe on a future date.
OP believed that it would be a fun and unique idea for a date as they could bond over baking, and he could also give his partner a cake for his belated birthday celebration.
Making a Fun Date Out of It
On the day that OP and their date met, they visited a baking cafe where Doug was given the opportunity to choose a cake.
OP generously paid for the cake themselves, and they were even given some freebies to play with at the crane machine.
Things Took a Turn
OP deemed it important to recount the details of their baking experience, which would become relevant later.
OP Took Charge of the Baking
Both OP and Doug began by measuring and gathering the necessary ingredients.
OP took charge of the stand mixer while his partner sat at his designated workspace.
Doug Continued to Watch
Following the recipe instructions, OP mixed the batter for eight minutes while Doug sat nearby.
Once the batter was ready, they put it into molds to bake.
He Wanted to Change the Recipe
OP took charge of the cake icing process, but Doug expressed a desire to create an ombre effect on the cake by adding strawberry-flavored icing.
Moving Forward with the Change
Despite initial nervousness due to a warning from the attendants that adding ingredients not in the recipe could result in an additional charge, he proceeded to create the icing as requested.
The Icing Did Not Turn Out
Although it was Doug’s first time making icing, he took on the task. Unfortunately, he overwhipped the icing, resulting in some challenges.
Almost Done With the Cake
After completing the baking process, OP and Doug had some downtime while they waited for the cakes to cool.
When it was time to assemble the cake, the date started with their icing first.
The Icing Was Horrible
As expected, the icing was clumpy and not sticking to the cake. They attempted to fix it but only made it worse.
Doug Left Him
OP calmly offered to fix the icing, but Doug abruptly disappeared. OP found him at a nearby table, and he suggested they finish the cake together.
He Accused Him of Doing All the Work
However, Doug became defensive and accused OP of doing all the work. Confused, OP suggested Doug could finish icing and decorating the cake if he preferred.
He Made Him Finish the Cake Alone
Doug refused to continue and instead left the cafe, telling OP to bring the cake home with them.
He said the Date Was a Waste of Time
When OP reminded Doug that the cake was intended as a gift, he said that OP had done everything and should have bought a cake instead.
He further claimed that their time had been wasted and they should have spent it studying for law school instead.
He Pleaded with Him to Come Back
OP was taken aback by Doug’s reaction and felt unappreciated, even coming close to tears. Despite this, he did not want to escalate the situation and repeatedly apologized, pleading for their date to come back.
He Remained Silent the Rest of the Night
Doug forced OP to finish decorating the cake despite initially agreeing to do it themselves.
After completing the cake, OP accompanied Doug to the train station, but he remained silent and took the cake without saying goodbye.
Was OP in the Wrong?
Reflecting on the events, OP questioned if he was at fault in the situation.
Reddit Users Comment on the Situation
Reddit users had mixed reactions to the situation. Some believe that the date idea was cute and thoughtful and that the boyfriend overreacted, making him the jerk in the situation.
Ultimately, many users agreed that both parties could have handled the situation better and that there were faults on both sides, making them both jerks in the situation.
What do you think? Was OP right in this situation?
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Source: Reddit