A protective mother shocked Redditors after she changed her adopted baby’s name. But it was the message she had for the bio family that really had jaws on the floor. Here is the full story.
He Was a Shiny Addition
OP and her husband took in his female cousin’s newborn son near the beginning of the pandemic.
They Were Happy to Have Him
It was a bad situation caused by the cousin’s partying, not to mention her and her partner’s addictions. OP and her husband were the only ones who stepped up, and they were happy to help the child.
They Would Give Him Back
But the arrangement was meant to be temporary, just until OP’s cousin got her life back on track.
They Would Get Back on Their Feet
Both OP’s cousin and her partner, the baby’s father, were scheduled to go to rehab. When they were finished, they would take the baby and everyone would move on.
They Never Even Checked In
The problem was that both of the parents skipped out on rehab. They also blew off all the checkpoints that Child Protective Services set up with them and OP.
He’s Still With Them
So now, 2 years later, OP and her husband are still taking care of the little boy.
She Sacrificed a Lot
OP is happy that she made the decision to take on the added responsibility, even though she had to sacrifice a lot.
He Was Her World
Because the baby was a newborn and had been born under special circumstances, OP quit her job to take care of him. She also gave up her social life to focus on the baby.
She Was Stuck
And then, of course, the onset of the pandemic meant that OP was confined to her house most of the time with a new baby plus her own 2 daughters.
He’s One of Hers
All during that time, none of the baby’s father’s family got involved with the child, either. As far as OP is concerned, the little boy is her son.
The Courts Agreed
That’s how the courts see it, too. OP and her husband were recently awarded full custody of the toddler.
She Made a Big Change
On the heels of that decision, OP made another big decision – she changed the baby’s name.
She Hated the Name
In particular, OP got rid of the first name that her husband’s cousin had chosen. It was the name of the father’s brother, who died of a drug overdose.
It Was a Fitting Choice
The child’s middle name was the first name of OP’s husband’s grandfather, so she made that the baby’s new first name.
She Honored Her Father
Then, for a middle name, OP used her own father’s name.
She Finished Him Off
And, finally, OP changed the baby’s last name to her and her husband’s last name.
He Was Brand New
Essentially, the baby now had a new identity to go along with a new official set of parents in OP and her husband.
She Was a Baby Thief
But when the family of the little boy’s bio father got wind of the name change, they blew up OP’s social media and attacked her as a baby thief.
She Took All She Could
There were many even worse names laced among the insults the family hurled at OP by text and on social. She took all she could, but one day, she snapped and lashed out.
He Did One Good Thing
OP told one of her online bullies that she wanted her son’s names to honor good men and not their junkie relative. She said the only good thing the man did was overdosing before he went to prison.
Did She Go Too Far?
That tirade unleashed a whole new level of backlash from the family, and OP felt like maybe she’d gone too far.
He Turned On Her, Too
In fact, her own husband told OP that she went too far. But she’s not sure she would change her response if faced with the same situation again.
It Was Harsh, but True
Redditors almost unanimously agree with OP’s sentiment and think she had a right to defend herself. Some of them can understand why the other family is upset about the name change, but they think OP had the right to make the switch.
And some commenters think OP was super harsh, but even they agree that she was pushed to the brink by the other family.
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