A Reddit poster asks if she was in the wrong for canceling an event at her house where her daughter’s boyfriend was going to propose.
The Original Poster (OP) reached boiling point when asked to ensure her gay son didn’t “act too gay” around the boyfriend’s family. The son, surprisingly, was not as offended as his mother.
Wondering If She Made the Right Choice
A Reddit user shares their story of stopping their daughter’s proposal due to wild comments being made by the soon-to-be fiance. She now fears the worst and that she ruined her relationship with her daughter.
A Blended Family Dynamic
OP’s daughter, Jaelinn, has been in a relationship with her boyfriend, James, for two years.
James has been living with OP’s family for the past year, but despite living just a few miles away, their families have never met in person.
She Has Conflicting Feelings
OP has mixed feelings about James – she doesn’t dislike him, but she’s not a fan, either.
James can be short-tempered with Jaelinn, orders her around too much, and often speaks to her in a condescending tone.
Additionally, James’ attitude toward just about everything is radically right-wing.
Major Red Flag
The biggest issue that OP has with James is his attitude toward her son, Devon, who is bisexual.
James has never said anything overtly hateful, but his phobias are obvious.
He rolls his eyes or snickers under his breath when he thinks no one is looking, and he has made it clear that while he’s not against the LGBTQ+ lifestyle, he doesn’t believe in it.
A Proposal Is Planned
Jaelinn, on the other hand, is highly suggestible and defers to James more often than she should.
James recently told OP that he was planning to propose to Jaelinn on Valentine’s Day and wanted to invite his family to the event.
OP thought it would be wonderful for everyone to be in attendance, so she agreed.
OP Un-invites Him
However, over the past few weeks, James has been making one demand after another.
He has been critical of the snacks OP plans to serve, doesn’t want his parents to see certain TV shows, and even asked OP to ensure that Devon doesn’t “act too gay” in front of his parents.
With this final demand, OP finally had enough and revoked the invitation.
A Messy Situation
The whole house was thrown into an uproar, and Jaelinn was furious with OP.
She said that James had changed his mind about proposing to her and that it was all OP’s fault.
At first, Devon supported OP, but now even he says that she should have kept her mouth shut and put up with it a little bit longer.
They Are Moving Out
OP’s daughter has still not talked to her since then, and OP has seen the couple moving boxes out of the home, which leads them to believe the daughter is moving out with the boyfriend.
She Feels Guilty
Overall, the situation is complicated. On the one hand, OP had every right to revoke the invitation if she felt uncomfortable with James’ demands.
On the other hand, Jaelinn is understandably upset that her surprise proposal was ruined. It remains to be seen whether James and Jaelinn will continue their relationship, and if so, how OP’s relationship with James will evolve.
Redditors Weighs In
Many Reddit commenters agreed with OP’s choice, stating that the boyfriend was displaying many red flags and that OP should have a long talk with her daughter about having this man in her life.
Some other commenters on the thread disagreed with OP’s choice, stating that this may have caused a huge divide in her daughter’s life and that she was forcing her to choose between her family and her soon-to-be fiancé.
What do you think? Was OP right to stop the proposal? What would you have done?
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